Saturday, April 29, 2006

Somerset County Homeless

Somerset County, NJ is one of the wealthiest counties in the country, but there is a significant number of people living under the poverty line and even some homeless. This is one of the lessons I attempt to bring to my Sociology students. When I saw ad in The Courier News looking for volunteers to help with the Point in Time count of Somerset County's homeless, I knew I had to put up or shut up.

I told my students about it and invited them to take up a collection for food and toiletries. The volunteers would not only be going around talking to homeless people, we'd be giving out small bags with snacks, drinks, toothbrushes, etc. The students had lots of grand ideas, but the execution wasn't so hot. We did get some supplies together and two of the students even offered to drive them to the county office in Somerville which was great.

Two days ago (Thursday), Kristen and I made our way to volunteer without knowing exactly what to expect. Kristen is much more experienced volunteering with the homeless, but those instances were usually at shelters or food kitchens not wandering the streets talking to people.

We picked up our backpacks of supplies, a map and nametag and then set off walking the streets of Somerville looking for homeless people. Our biggest fear was walking up to someone and asking them to take our survey only to find out the person was not homeless. To help us identify homeless, this checklist was provided:
  • They are typically by themselves.
  • Clothing may be dirty, inappropriate for the weather or layered.
  • Actions which indicate one is under the influence or responding to voices.
  • Lack of eye contact with those they may encounter.
  • They may carry bags (black garbage bags, paper or etc.) filled with belongings.

At some point during our two-hour shift, we say people meeting all of these descriptions. We headed to the Somerville train station where we were told there was a "tent city" beyond the furthest parking lot. We decided to head into the trails that go into some woods at the edge of the parking lot figuring that was a likely location. We walked for a bit into the trails and observed old fire pits, empty liquor bottles, discarded blankets, etc. so we figured we were in the right area, but we didn't actually see anyone. We headed back to the parking lot and saw a man with a bag heading through a fence. Figuring he would lead us to the right area, we followed him, but by the time we got to the fence we couldn't find him anywhere in the wooded area, which was a bit frightening. Either way, he was homeless person #1 for our chart.

Next, we decided to walk along the train tracks. We encountered a second man here. When I started the spiel, he quickly said he didn't want to talk to me without slowing down. We spent some time along the tracks and even saw our third person but he too disappeared before we were close enough to say anything.

After an exhilirating run across the tracks, we walked along an almost completely abandoned shopping center. Here we found a man with a very full beard and lots of layers of clothing even though it was pretty warm. He was walking with his eyes downcast and may have been muttering to himself. I said "excuse me" and asked if I could speak with him for a few minutes. He wanted no part of it.

After a brief stop at the United Reform Church where outreach programs are offered at certain times, we walked along the main drag, through some side streets and talked about how poorly we were doing at getting our surveys filled out. So far we had seen 3 homeless people and had administered the survey to none of them.

Our walk took us back to train station and we decided to make one more trek through the wooded area. We came across the first man we saw again. This time, he was in an area clearly reserved for him with wood set up like seats, lots of beer and an American flag proudly standing on a pole. We decided not to say anything to him since he clearly didn't want to talk to us. Instead, as we walked by he called to us. He told us "you shouldn't walking here." Kristen and I agreed with him very much when he said that. Turns out, he meant we shouldn't be walking there because of ticks. This was the hook (no pun intended) we needed. He was willing to answer our questions.

We spent 10-15 minutes giving him the survey from a distance (by his request) and also asked a number of questions just to get to him better. He is 56 years old and has been homeless for about 2 months. He does volunteer work for the Samartin Homeless Interim Program (SHIP), including working with SHIP's mobile food kitchen when it was distributing food to the workers at Ground Zero following 9/11. He served in the United States military for 8 years including at least one stint in Vietnam. When asked if he ever received services, he rattled off a list of hospitals and treatment centers throughout the region including Greystone (a psychiatric hospital) and Lyons (a Veterans Affairs hospital). When asked if he receives any veteran's benefits, he said he wouldn't take them even if he was eligible. He did not elaborate on why that was. We also gave him an opportunity to tell us anything else he thought we should know. He told us to ask why there is a shelter available to women in Somerville (the Agape House) but not one for men. When we brought that question back, the Project Coordinator for Somerset County Community Development (the person running this event) said she wondered the same thing. Because this man we were talking to indicated about 5 other people live in the same area, we asked him if we could leave a few bags of supplies for all of them. The entire time we had been talking to him, he was drinking a beer and pacing the area he'd set up for himself. He was well-spoken, relatively clean cut considering, and very knowledgeable. He was showed a lot of pride and said he'd be fine and he didn't need anyone's help that programs should be helping the kids that are on the streets instead. His demeanor changed when we gave him the bags with some basic supplies and snacks though. After all of his criticisms of the public offerings, he then told us to please tell them thank you for the bags when we got back. He was genuinely appreciative and as Kristen and I walked back out of the woods in silence (very concerned about ticks I might add), I think we both had the same idea - that time talking to this one man made the whole process worthwhile.

When we got back to the office, we still weren't sure if our 3 observed homeless and 1 survey were good enough. We were feeling guilty that we didn't get more. The staff was ecstatic! In the morning all the volunteers returned with 0 homeless observations yet we had 4. We had no idea while on the streets, but it turns out we were more successful than anticipated.

I know this post is ridiculously long, but I have a feeling at least a few of you are still reading. It was a good experience and one that I can bring back to my students. The coordinator of the project plans to send a thank-you to my classes for their donations and offered to speak to them as well so we're working on making that happen.

I'm thinking that I need to make a concerted effort to do some more volunteer work. I looked into that SHIP program that this homeless man worked with. It seems like they run a great deal of services out of Somerville and I'm sure I could find something to offer them if they needed my help even if it was only once a month or something like that.

Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Moved in?

Yesterday was the big day. It started before 8am. Here's a rough run-down of how the day went:

8:00am - Drop my car off at the condo, go pick up the Budget truck
9:00am - Pack up as much as possible still at the apartment
11:00am - Off to the condo with Dave's truck full, Dave hung the blinds, I cleaned up and organized to make moving in easier
12:15pm - Back to the apartment where we were met by Dave's g/f Mandy and Tim D. from school. The heavy lifting and loading began and was a pain in the ass b/c my stuff is so big and heavy. Because of the double staircases and a tight turn, we wound up dropping my foundation and mattress of the balcony instead. Too bad I don't have any pictures.
1:45pm - Close up the truck and head over to the condo. Tim H. from school is with us now too. Big guys + move = easy for the little guys like me.
2:00pm - At the condo, team move is in place. Dave and I are at the condo carrying stuff up the stairs while the Tims unload the truck and carry it to my door. Keeps the mud out of the condo and lets the two little guys move less.
3:30pm - This is a really rough estimate, but this is about the time we finished. Steve is here by this point helping too. Patriot Media is in the process of getting my Internet and cable up and running. Everything is stacked in the apartment with no apparent breaks or catastrophes. No one is even fighting - good move.
3:45pm - Steve stays to help with some more stuff after everyone else leaves. He works on changing my locks while I unpack some things and organize what needs to go where.
5:00pm - Steve and I bring back the truck and get some dinner. Then we stop at Lowes, my second home.
6:00pm - Back to the condo. Steve and I push everything up into the attic that we can. We put my bed together. Then he's off for the drive back to South Jersey.

All in all it was a great day. I was exhausted, but thanks to the help of Dave, Mandy, Tim D., Tim H., and Steve 95% of my stuff was moved from the apartment to the condo successfully. There are stacks of boxes and stuff everywhere, but it's all here and I can work a little at a time over the new couple weeks to get it all right. Allie will be back on Friday for more painting and I've got a few more days to work before heading back to school.

Saturday, April 22, 2006

Bowling Amazement

I came across this piece of paper while packing. I know I need to throw it away, but I want to immortalize the information on it.

January 27, 2006 - 4:09pm - Strike-N-Spare Bowling Alley
Teacher Bowling Outing

MAM (that's me)

Frame 1 - X - 30
2 - X - 60
3 - X - 86
4 - X - 104
5 - 6 2 - 112
6 - 9 - - 121
7 - - 9 - 130
8 - X - 149
9 - 8 1 - 158
10 - 7 / 8 - 176

Wow! By a ton, this was the best I'd ever bowled.

Packing and packing

I'm finally starting to feel like all of my packing is making a dent. My closet is nearly empty, the walls are bare, a few cabinets in the kitchen are empty, I've thrown away a ton of garbage, dropped clothes off for Salvation Army, etc. There's still so much to do though before actually moving on Tuesday and it needs to stop raining ASAP!

To Do list for Sunday/Monday:

schedule installation of an outlet over the current stove before the new stove arrives on Friday
remove wallpaper from bathroom
change locks on front door
paint (Allie is doing most of this)
get hot water heater running
get washer/dryer running (replace hoses, attach lint collector)
remove backsplash in kitchen
get/install blinds for bedroom/living room
clean floors and bathroom well
install shelves in hall closet
figure out furniture placement
finish address change calls

Woohoo!

Monday, April 17, 2006

Closing Time

"Closing time - time for you to go out, go out into the world."

Semisonic had it right - and today, I went out into the world.

As I sat around the closing table at my (yes, I possess legal representation) lawyer's office, I had an odd feeling surreality. I sat in this giant cushy chair enjoying the fact that I could spin back and forth ever so slightly - not so much to draw attention to myself, but enough to enjoy it. I felt small in that chair surrounded by a giant oval desk...I felt like I was too young to be in this situation.

Seated to my right was the Wachovia mortgage broker. She didn't have to come to the closing; in fact, she did absolutely nothing while we were there. She didn't sign 1 piece of paper. To my left was my lawyer, a University of Delaware grad and former high school history teacher. He was very friendly - probably because he was getting $850 from me. He summarized each of the hundreds of papers I signed today. I have a feeling I should have read some more of that paperwork - I probably signed away my future kids' rights or my soul (are you allowed to sell your soul if you are not religious?). Across the table was my real estate agent. She was a huge help through the entire process and she truly did go above and beyond the call of duty to help me. She's a former teacher as well and holds a PhD in Curriculum and Instruction. When not selling real estate around the world (yes, the world), she still teaches 1 class at Princeton to undergraduate education majors. I think she looked at me like her son; she always talked about her daughter who is graduating from Drew this spring. I half expected her to try to set me up with her daughter. Next to my agent was the representative from the title company. She did a lot of the work today. She handled the paperwork on both sides including all the money. Next to her was the seller. We had a potentially big snafu at the beginning of the closing that could have cancelled the whole deal. It was entirely on the seller's side, but I don't feel like explaining it right now. Maybe another time. Next to her was her agent. No big deal.

Anyway, I was there for about 2 hours and 15 minutes and now I own my first home. I went to the condo tonight, dropped some stuff off, drew a floorplan so I can start planning where stuff goes. I walked around in the attic a bit, tried out some things, somewhat fixed the sliding screen door to the deck and the stairs to the attic, peeled some wallpaper and all in all just marveled at the fact I own something that big.

Stat of the day...if I pay off the mortgage according to schedule for the next 30 years, I will have paid $398,000 to buy my $163,500 condo. That's pretty funny. I have no idea how I'm paying for this.

Sunday, April 16, 2006

Saturday, April 15, 2006

Spookiness

I walked downstairs sometime this afternoon and the TV in the poker room was on - a grainy picture with no sound except static. Dave wasn't home. The door was locked.

I went to the TV and pressed power and it came on fully with sound and a clear picture. I pressed power again and it turned off.

I have no idea how it got on in the first place.

Doctor Appointment

So yesterday I went to the doctor for the first time in almost 3 years - had to get a physical for the Japan trip and figured I'd have them look at my foot that's been hurting for a week.

After sitting in the waiting room and then the examination room for probably 45 minutes or so, the nurse comes in and asks if it's okay if I have a woman doctor. I said yes and then thought about the question for a few minutes after she left. This is the kind of scenario we talk about in my Sociology classes.

The nurse most likely asked me because 1) I was a new patient so they didn't know my preferences, 2) some men might be uncomfortable with having a woman doctor (especially for a physical) and 3) the 2 doctors' names on the door were both men.

I think the doctor was very uncomfortable. She was young for a doctor, probably under 30. As far as a Sociology topic, she was only female but Indian too. She told me that unless I was having any problems "down there" then we could skip the hernia check. Seemed odd to me, but I wasn't going to press the issue.

We talked about my foot for a minute. I self-diagnosed that I hurt something while jogging and then overcompensated because of the pain and made it worse. She agreed, told me to rest it (haha) and take Motrin.

I've been doing that to some degree and it's getting better for sure.

Monday, April 10, 2006

1 Week to Closing

Talked to the real estate agent today and things are on track to close on the condo in 1 week - Monday, April 17. Wow!

I also received a copy of the appraisal done by the mortgage company. There they appraise the value of the place I'm buying but also provide detailed information about comparable sales in the area. Some very interesting and promising information...

They gave the details on 3 comparable condos - 2 of them are in the same development and are exactly the same square footage, year built, etc. Most likely they have differing interiors and are probably more updated than mine is, but they are essentially the same condo.

Comparable No. 1 - Sold on 10/4/05 for 185,000. It's listed in superior condition rather than average, but that's a difference of over $20,000 in sale price.

Comparable No. 2 - Sold on 12/23/05 for 196,000. It's listed in superior condition and has a basement, but sold for over $30,000 more than mine.

The final price on my condo is $163,500. I've been watching the sale listings in the paper and have seen only a couple lower than that in the Hillsborough-Bridgewater area so I really think I got a good deal. Granted, I need to put $6-8000 worth of work into it before I try to sell it 5-7 years down the road, but the investment return should be pretty good based on this information.

Thursday, April 06, 2006

Train of Thought

I've been meaning to write the last few days, but I keep getting caught up in all the other stuff I have to do so instead of actually writing a specific entry on 1 topic, I'm just going to go ahead and write whatever pops into my mind. Hang on!

I'm really tired today and was yesterday too. In fact yesterday I slept for about 3 hours during the early evening and then went to bed by 11:45 like usual. I think it's because earlier in the week I was up later than usual. I've been trying to get a million things done at once this week - grad school work, regular school work, grading for the end of the marking period, starting the packing process for the move (which is only about 2 weeks away), the jogging, and whatever else comes up. Every time I get something done, I feel like there are 3 more things that need to happen. This weekend should be good though. I don't have a whole lot planned although it is my sister's birthday so I'll want to save some time for her if she's around. I should be able to get grad school and lesson plans done on Saturday maybe, which would leave me a good chunk of time for laundry and packing -- fun!

I had my annual evaluation with my supervisor yesterday (although I forgot about it until about 20 minutes into the scheduled meeting). It went really well and I got some good compliments. We didn't get to talk as much about next year as I thought we might. He did suggest I shouldn't need to teach any new courses next year, which would be good, but I have a feeling I'm going to be teaching 3 classes again (Honors World History, sociology and Holocaust and Human Behavior). This semester I only have the first two and it makes planning so much easier than when I have 3.

Today was the end of the BTEA elections; I ran as a building rep. There were 6 of us running for 5 positions. They'll probably announce the results tomorrow. I'd probably be better off not getting elected...I'm just asking for more responsibilities.

The Next Food Network Star is pretty exciting. They put them in ridiculous positions and scenarios and make them try to survive...it's fun. Oh well, it's 10:59 which means The Daily Show and The Colbert Report are about to start and I can't miss them even though I'm practically sleeping right now.

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

Jogging Update

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm
4/4 1 mile 7:56-8:03pm

Monday, April 03, 2006

Jogging update

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm

Sunday, April 02, 2006

Jogging Update

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm