Monday, May 29, 2006

"That idea of home is gone."

Quote from the movie Garden State from imdb.com:

Andrew Largeman: You know that point in your life when you realize that the house that you grew up in isn't really your home anymore? All of the sudden even though you have some place where you can put your stuff that idea of home is gone.
Sam: I still feel at home in my house.
Andrew Largeman: You'll see when you move out it just sort of happens one day one day and it's just gone. And you can never get it back. It's like you get homesick for a place that doesn't exist. I mean it's like this rite of passage, you know. You won't have this feeling again until you create a new idea of home for yourself, you know, for your kids, for the family you start, it's like a cycle or something. I miss the idea of it. Maybe that's all family really is. A group of people who miss the same imaginary place.

This quote resonated with me deeply when I first saw the movie. I had only been out living on my own for a few months. I think this process begins when you move away to college although whenever I was home from school I felt like I was at home at our house in Saddle Brook.

Once I moved to my first apartment in Hillsborough, I started to feel like Saddle Brook wasn't as much my home anymore. I didn't know the changes in the community, very little of my stuff was still there even though my room still looked like my room, I didn't have ties to people in the town other than my immediate family.

Then once my sister moved out and then my parents to Florida, any connection I had to the town disappeared, which is kind of odd given that I lived there for almost 23 years. And then it's just gone like that.

I never felt like my apartments in Hillsborough or Belle Mead were really home. I have good memories there, especially in Belle Mead, of being with friends, but they were just temporary places to live. My condo in Hillsborough, I think, will eventually feel more like a home because I own it and I'm giving it my own personal touch whether it be through decorating, painting, what have you. But I think Andrew Largeman is right. I don't think I'll really have a sense of home again until I have my own family. And then I'll start a process of building a shared understanding of what home means again (to continue the cycle).

Saturday, May 27, 2006

Meeting the Old Advisor

This morning I spent two hours sitting and talking with a previous advisor of my school's paper. I had done research into the newspaper's past while preparing for the banquet last week and I learned that the paper won national recognition in the 1980s and early 1990s under one advisor. So I looked him up in the phone book and gave him a call.

We talked about how my school has changed in the 10 years since he retired. We talked about the newspaper and how I run things. We talked about ways to improve and which things are better now than they used to be. We talked educational philosophy and a range of other topics. It was very interesting and enlightening for both of us (I presume).

He held onto a couple of our issues and is going to provide some feedback. He used to be a judge for a national association that is very highly respected. He may also come speak to my students in June or next fall.

Tuesday, May 23, 2006

Why I Became a Teacher

At tonight's newspaper banquet, some great things happened. I just finished writing my students an e-mail and I thought it'd be easiest just to post that:



Yes, I know I send a lot of e-mails. Just read this one (please).

I don't even know how to start this e-mail. Let me do it this way. Some of you may already know that I am currently in grad school (on top of teaching and all those other things that make my e-mail signature look impressive). I'm actually less than a year away from finishing at which time I'll have a Master's degree in Educational Administration. In other words, after next school year, I'll be able to look for a job as a principal or a supervisor (and make a lot more $)...
The Devil's Advocate is the #1 reason why I can't imagine doing so at this point in my life. It's not the classes I teach or the marching band or the pep band (I apologize to those of you that are also in those categories); it's the newspaper staff. The things the seniors (and Ilana) said tonight mean the world to me. These connections are why I became a teacher. While I love teaching in general, I haven't felt this kind of heartfelt gratitude from students since I was student teaching and I really appreciate it. I could not look you all in the eye and tell you I was leaving. We've all worked too hard and there's so much more for us to accomplish together.

The gifts are amazing. I'm finally cool now that I have an Ipod - and a fancy one at that. I hope it doesn't get stolen from my gym locker though. I don't know where I'm finding 30gb of music though. I just checked...if I transfer every song on my computer, I'd barely use up 8gb. Lee -- you need to set me up with some good music.

And Ilana...the scrapbook is unbelievable. I just finished going through it. All of the little details and touches are wonderful. You must have spent hours and hours on it. All the little word cut-outs and the pictures. I don't even know how you all organized this thing. You've got notes from editors, a drawing by Frances (which is great), really funny "quotes" with the pictures, DA firsts, 10 ways to tell you are a member of the DA...great stuff. I know you all spent a lot of money on the Ipod (and I really am very grateful) but the scrapbook is certainly one of the most thoughtful gifts I've ever received. I hope you don't mind if I keep it in my classroom so I can show it off.

I'll get back to harassing you about the missed deadlines (like yesterday's), needed articles, editor's meeting (which is Thursday), etc. tomorrow. Tonight I just wanted to let you know how I feel and how much I appreciate all that you've given me the past two years.

Thank you.

Sunday, May 21, 2006

My Psychological Profile

Reveals...

Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging by Marina Margaret Heiss

To outsiders, INTJs may appear to project an aura of "definiteness", of self-confidence. This self-confidence, sometimes mistaken for simple arrogance by the less decisive, is actually of a very specific rather than a general nature; its source lies in the specialized knowledge systems that most INTJs start building at an early age. When it comes to their own areas of expertise -- and INTJs can have several -- they will be able to tell you almost immediately whether or not they can help you, and if so, how. INTJs know what they know, and perhaps still more importantly, they know what they don't know.

INTJs are perfectionists, with a seemingly endless capacity for improving upon anything that takes their interest. What prevents them from becoming chronically bogged down in this pursuit of perfection is the pragmatism so characteristic of the type: INTJs apply (often ruthlessly) the criterion "Does it work?" to everything from their own research efforts to the prevailing social norms. This in turn produces an unusual independence of mind, freeing the INTJ from the constraints of authority, convention, or sentiment for its own sake.
INTJs are known as the "Systems Builders" of the types, perhaps in part because they possess the unusual trait combination of imagination and reliability. Whatever system an INTJ happens to be working on is for them the equivalent of a moral cause to an INFJ; both perfectionism and disregard for authority may come into play, as INTJs can be unsparing of both themselves and the others on the project. Anyone considered to be "slacking," including superiors, will lose their respect -- and will generally be made aware of this; INTJs have also been known to take it upon themselves to implement critical decisions without consulting their supervisors or co-workers. On the other hand, they do tend to be scrupulous and even-handed about recognizing the individual contributions that have gone into a project, and have a gift for seizing opportunities which others might not even notice.

In the broadest terms, what INTJs "do" tends to be what they "know". Typical INTJ career choices are in the sciences and engineering, but they can be found wherever a combination of intellect and incisiveness are required (e.g., law, some areas of academia). INTJs can rise to management positions when they are willing to invest time in marketing their abilities as well as enhancing them, and (whether for the sake of ambition or the desire for privacy) many also find it useful to learn to simulate some degree of surface conformism in order to mask their inherent unconventionality.

Personal relationships, particularly romantic ones, can be the INTJ's Achilles heel. While they are capable of caring deeply for others (usually a select few), and are willing to spend a great deal of time and effort on a relationship, the knowledge and self-confidence that make them so successful in other areas can suddenly abandon or mislead them in interpersonal situations.
This happens in part because many INTJs do not readily grasp the social rituals; for instance, they tend to have little patience and less understanding of such things as small talk and flirtation (which most types consider half the fun of a relationship). To complicate matters, INTJs are usually extremely private people, and can often be naturally impassive as well, which makes them easy to misread and misunderstand. Perhaps the most fundamental problem, however, is that INTJs really want people to make sense. :-) This sometimes results in a peculiar naivete', paralleling that of many Fs -- only instead of expecting inexhaustible affection and empathy from a romantic relationship, the INTJ will expect inexhaustible reasonability and directness.
Probably the strongest INTJ assets in the interpersonal area are their intuitive abilities and their willingness to "work at" a relationship. Although as Ts they do not always have the kind of natural empathy that many Fs do, the Intuitive function can often act as a good substitute by synthesizing the probable meanings behind such things as tone of voice, turn of phrase, and facial expression. This ability can then be honed and directed by consistent, repeated efforts to understand and support those they care about, and those relationships which ultimately do become established with an INTJ tend to be characterized by their robustness, stability, and good communications.

Functional Analysis
Introverted iNtuition
INTJs are idea people. Anything is possible; everything is negotiable. Whatever the outer circumstances, INTJs are ever perceiving inner pattern-forms and using real-world materials to operationalize them. Others may see what is and wonder why; INTJs see what might be and say "Why not?!" Paradoxes, antinomies, and other contradictory phenomena aptly express these intuitors' amusement at those whom they feel may be taking a particular view of reality too seriously. INTJs enjoy developing unique solutions to complex problems.

Extraverted Thinking
Thinking in this auxiliary role is a workhorse. Closure is the payoff for efforts expended. Evaluation begs diagnosis; product drives process. As they come to light, Thinking tends, protects, affirms and directs iNtuition's offspring, fully equipping them for fulfilling and useful lives. A faithful pedagogue, Thinking argues not so much on its own behalf, but in defense of its charges. And through this process these impressionable ideas take on the likeness of their master.

Introverted Feeling
Feeling has a modest inner room, two doors down from the Most Imminent iNtuition. It doesn't get out much, but lends its influence on behalf of causes which are Good and Worthy and Humane. We may catch a glimpse of it in the unspoken attitude of good will, or the gracious smile or nod. Some question the existence of Feeling in this type, yet its unseen balance to Thinking is a cardinal dimension in the full measure of the INTJ's soul.

Extraverted Sensing
Sensing serves with a good will, or not at all. As other inferior functions, it has only a rudimentary awareness of context, amount or degree. Thus INTJs sweat the details or, at times, omit them. "I've made up my mind, don't confuse me with the facts" could well have been said by an INTJ on a mission. Sensing's extraverted attitude is evident in this type's bent to savor sensations rather than to merely categorize them. Indiscretions of indulgence are likely an expression of the unconscious vengeance of the inferior.

Famous INTJs:
Dan Aykroyd (The Blues Brothers)Susan B. AnthonyArthur Ashe, tennis championAugustus Caesar (Gaius Julius Caesar Octavianus)Jane Austen (Pride and Prejudice)William J. Bennett, "drug czar"William F. Buckley, Jr.Raymond Burr (Perry Mason, Ironsides)Chevy Chase (Cornelius Crane) (Fletch)Phil DonahueMichael Dukakis, governor of Mass., 1988 U.S. Dem. pres. candidateGreg Gumbel, television sportscasterHannibal, Carthaginian military leaderVeronica Hamel (Hill Street Blues)Angela Lansbury (Murder, She Wrote)Orel Leonard Hershiser, IVPeter JenningsCharles Everett KoopIvan LendlC. S. Lewis (The Chronicles of Narnia)Joan LundenEdwin Moses, U.S. olympian (hurdles)Martina NavratilovaCharles Rangel, U. S. Representative, D-N.Y.Pernell Roberts (Bonanza)Arnold Schwarzenegger, Governor of CaliforniaJosephine Tey (Elizabeth Mackintosh), mystery writer (Brat Farrar)Rudy Giuliani, former New York City mayorDonald Rumsfeld, US Secretary of Defense General Colin Powell, US Secretary of StateLance ArmstrongRichard Gere (Pretty Woman)Katie Couric
U.S. Presidents:
Chester A. Arthur
Calvin Coolidge
Thomas Jefferson
John F. Kennedy
James K. Polk
Woodrow Wilson

Saturday, May 20, 2006

Student Press Rights

High school newspaper advisors often find themselves caught in the middle of two sets of stakeholders: students and the administration. Advisors have a responsibility to teach and advocate for the responsible use of the public forum by students. Advisors also have a responsibility and an obligation to follow school and district policies and procedures. Herein lies the problem. What happens when these two things do not peacefully coexist?

Such is my life.

My school district maintains a policy referred to as prior review. What it means is that the building principal reads every issue prior to publication and has the perogative to censor anything due to educational concerns. This language is purposefully broad and is perfectly legal although every major scholastic and professional journalism association denounces the practice. It's only been this way since 1988 due to a Supreme Court ruling in that year.

Until April of this year, my principal had never censored anything my students worked on. Then came a controversial situation where a student allegedly made threats against other students. One of my editors was writing a news story on the topic and was told not to cover the story by the principal (the story is much more complex - I'm keeping it simple for the blog). This alone is probably a proper use of prior review and censorship (although in principle I think no such thing exists). However, the principal then declared that the staff could not cover any issue of school violence for the rest of this year. While this clearly oversteps his bounds by virtue of school policy, Supreme Court case law and the US Constitution, the student did not wish to fight it. My rights were not violated; my students' were.

Now we have another story that may cause problems. A student wished to run for student body president. I have a personal history with this student that included my writing him up for numerous disciplinary infractions during his sophomore year while in study hall. I taught him in the fall of this year in an elective course. The student, by his own account, followed all the stated rules for getting on the ballot for this election including having 3 faculty sponsors (a guidance counselor and 2 assistant principals) and the requisite number of student signatures on a petition. The student was not placed on the ballot (the reasons why are alleged and I won't relate them here for that reason).

I now have a student working on investigating this story. Because of accusations that the principal and a powerful teacher were behind leaving this student off the ballot, I anticipate friction once word of the story reaches the higher levels of the administration. I've already provided my staff member with the contact information for the Student Press Law Center (which provides free legal counsel to student journalists) and have thought through my response to any attempt to block this story. Based on the advice of other advisors around the country who have been in similar spots, this story will end up becoming a local news story covered by the mainstream press should it be censored from the scholastic press.

I've done a lot of research into these laws. Conveniently I'm in a grad school course on School Law now which provides me with access to case law on the topic. I'm really building a body of documentation to get the Board policy changed in the very near future. I stumbled across an article published in my school's newspaper in the late 80s when the Supreme Court ruling came down that quotes the advisor at that time, the school principal and the superintendent all stating how important it was to trust students to print what they wanted without restriction and how they did not envision that ever changing at my school.

That article will be featured on a display at our annual banquet on Tuesday evening.

Wish me luck.

Sunday, May 14, 2006

Jogging Update

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm
4/4 1 mile 7:56-8:03pm
5/1 1 mile 7:41-7:49pm
5/3 1 mile 8:38-8:45pm
5/10 1 mile 7:51-7:57pm
5/13 1 mile 7:30-7:37pm
5/14 1 mile 7:17-7:24pm (this one hurt though, I started getting cramps before I even
hit the ¼ mark but I managed to push through)

Randomness

I had two pretty random experiences in the past week.

This afternoon I called ING Direct customer service. I should have known something was strange when I was only on hold for 5 seconds before getting a real person.

ING Customer Service: How can I help you save your money today?
Me:
ING Customer Service: Can I have your customer number?
Me:
ING Customer Service: Can I have your name?
Me: Matthew Mingle
ING Customer Service: I know a Matt Mingle; I played trumpet with him.

It turns out the customer service agent was Steve Germann, a guy I graduated from Delaware with who was also in the trumpet section. It turns out Steve is working for ING customer serive (obviously) while also playing in some bands (as he was in college) and serving in the Air Force (National Guard or Reserve I think) as a journalist. He's planning to eventually get back into school to get an education certificate to go along with his degree in English/Journalism. We couldn't talk much b/c our call was being recorded, but he did point me to his MySpace page to get back in touch.

The second random encounter was indirect and occurred when I was out with Adrienne last week. She asked what town I was from in North Jersey. I figured she'd never know of it so I told her. She knew the town b/c the sports editor at her paper in Ocean County happens to have lived down the street from me in Saddle Brook.

Very strange but this kind of random connection happens all the time.

Saturday, May 13, 2006

Cable TV - Friend or Foe?

So I got my first cable bill in the condo today:

Expanded Basic - 39.90
Limited Cable - 14.25
Modem Service - 45.95
Modem Rental - 2.00

With taxes, it comes to 102.60/month. Ouch. My life would cease to function without Internet access, but could I survive without cable tv? I'm starting to think yes. The only shows I watch regularly on cable are The Daily Show and The Colbert Report.

I don't really watch that much tv anyway. And watching less tv will lead to very little negativity. I'll read more, go to bed earlier, whatever.

Plus, I'll save $40 a month. I can get a $20 Netflix subscription and have movies/tv shows rotating through. I'll still save $20 and I'll always have something new to pop into the DVD player if I want to plop down and watch something...

Jogging Update

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm
4/4 1 mile 7:56-8:03pm
5/1 1 mile 7:41-7:49pm
5/3 1 mile 8:38-8:45pm
5/10 1 mile 7:51-7:57pm
5/13 1 mile 7:30-7:37pm

European Heritage

I received my preliminary assignment for my 2007 People to People trip (even though there are still 2 months before I leave for my 2006 trip). I'm really excited about this one!

"Your journey blends cultural exploration with inspiring activity. Each day promises to be different from the one before as you visit bustling cities, historical villages and natural settings in England, France, Belgium, The Netherlands, Germany and Switzerland. Experience fascinating places as an adventurer and a scholar. "

While I've been to France and Switzerland (and two German airports), I've never been to England, Belgium or the Netherlands at all. This sounds like a whirlwind tour of some amazing places.

England

  • Admire the dazzling crown jewels at the historic Tower of London
  • Enjoy a theater performance in London’s famous West End district
  • Learn about the government of England during an official briefing with a member of Parliament
  • See Buckingham Palace and Shakespeare’s Globe Theatre
  • Live with a host family to learn about everyday life in England
  • View the ancient and mysterious monuments of Stonehenge
  • Ride a ferry across the English Channel

France

  • See the D-Day beaches of Normandy and pause for reflection at the American Cemetery
  • Explore Paris with a stroll down the Champs-Elysees, the city’s renowned shopping district and the final stretch of the Tour de France
  • Enjoy a magnificent view of Paris from the Eiffel Tower
  • Come face to face with the “Mona Lisa” at the Louvre
  • Dine at the Hard Rock CafĂ©

Belgium

  • Wander along medieval bridges and canals in the charming city of Bruges
  • Take a horse-and-carriage ride through the city and meet a chocolate maker
  • Visit Ypres and Flanders Field to learn about the history of World War I

The Netherlands

  • See the International Court of Justice at The Hague
  • Cruise the canals of Amsterdam and step inside the Anne Frank House
  • Ride bicycles past windmills and taste the famous cheeses of Edam

Germany

  • Pass medieval castles on a river cruise through the Rhine River Valley
  • Visit Heidelberg, see the famous castle and Heidelberg University, founded in 1386
  • Experience the enchanting Black Forest region
Switzerland
  • Ascend the famous Schilthorn Mountain by cable car
  • Take in the beauty of mountain lakes and the medieval skylines of Lucerne
  • Learn about the art of jewelry and watch making

Wednesday, May 10, 2006

Jogging Update

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm
4/4 1 mile 7:56-8:03pm
5/1 1 mile 7:41-7:49pm
5/3 1 mile 8:38-8:45pm
5/10 1 mile 7:51-7:57pm

Monday, May 08, 2006

Grad School

I got another grade report in the mail today from the University of Scranton. I've now completed 1 full academic year. In that year, I've completed 21 credits (or 7 classes) out of 39 (13).

Two current courses:
Problems in School Administration and Supervision - A
Principles & Practices of Supervision - A

Cumulative GPA - 3.90

Nice.

Sunday, May 07, 2006

Bathroom Painting

I painted the bathroom today. To get this point, I had to spend most of a day peeling and scraping wallpaper and sanding down the walls. Then my sister's fiance spent an afternoon power sanding the walls to smooth them out. Once the wallpaper was off, it was clear why earlier owners/tenants used it; the walls are not in very good shape. Lots of patches and repatches, divots, etc. The painting came out ok, but the uneven wall surface is clearly evident even after all the prep work we did on them. It adds some character to the walls because really who wants a smooth wall anyway?

I think I'm going to need to do a second coat, but I don't have enough paint so that's going to wait for another day. For now, at least the walls have paint on them and I can get the mirror and fixtures back in place since they've been off since I moved in.

Character Redefinition

Yesterday was somewhat out of character for me.

Started out the day proctoring the SATs (this is not the out of character part). Came home and did some cleaning and stuff around the condo.

Then, I went to Stuff Yer Face in New Brunswick to meet someone (Adrienne) for dinner who had contacted me on MySpace through a mutual friend. We had dinner and a a couple drinks there and then spent a little more time at Harvest Moon.

Okay, this is where the character redefinition comes into play. Around 10:00, Adrienne asked me if I wanted to go with her to meet up with some of her friends she was going out with...the catch was that they were going out in Belmar. For those of you reading this not familiar with central NJ geography, Belmar is on the Jersey Shore and about 40 minutes southeast of New Brunswick.

I agreed.

We drove to Belmar and hung out there until closing time, around 1:30. Then we drove back to New Brunswick to get Adrienne's car and then I came home. I wound up getting to bed at 3:30. Now this is certainly not atypical behavior for a 20-something year old, but it is somewhat atypical for me I think, at least with people I'm not already pretty good friends with.

I had a good time although I can't make it a regular habit as it gets expensive and my budget is really really tight now that I'm in the condo.

Thursday, May 04, 2006

Jogging

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm
4/4 1 mile 7:56-8:03pm
5/1 1 mile 7:41-7:49pm
5/3 1 mile 8:38-8:45pm

Monday, May 01, 2006

Finally a Jogging Update

My foot has been feeling about 85% pain-free the past couple days so I decided to finally give jogging a shot tonight. I ran a mile, although over new terrain here at the condo that includes running on a somewhat main road. I think I preferred the solitude of running in the Pike Run development where I could be reasonably sure few people would watch my (most likely) poor jogging form.

Anyway, so far so good with the pain. Hopefully I'll feel the same way tomorrow morning.

Jogging Tally

3/30 1 mile 6:49-6:56pm
4/2 1 mile 7:05-7:12pm
4/3 1 mile 7:43-7:50pm
4/4 1 mile 7:56-8:03pm
5/1 1 mile 7:41-7:49pm